I am angry today.
Generally, I am angry that we live in a world where men still believe that aggression and physical dominance gives them power over other people.
Specifically, I am angry that my personal enjoyment of a much anticipated show by one of my favourite bands was tainted by the enduring shit-show of toxic masculinity that sadly typifies our society.
I am so angry, in fact, that I cannot adequately summarize what happened. Luckily, my totally badass friend Victoria Spooner (who also happens to be a rad bassist, broadcaster and all-round power woman – follow her on Twitter at @urban_sorceress if you’re interested – you should be), succinctly and accurately summed up our shared experience for me by saying “I went to the show looking to connect with a band who I think see the issues I care about but then I didn’t get to let off steam like I wanted to because there was no space for me to do it.
And that’s just it. There isn’t space. I don’t mean, of course, that there isn’t space in The Rickshaw (it’s massive). What I mean is that CIS white men are taking up all the space in the pit, with no regard for anyone else. Of course this happens everywhere, but last night was pitiful beyond words – men who have paid to see a band whose lyrics and ideologies are absolutely raging against everything that was happening in that room at that time. Idles’ frontman Joe Talbot said in an interview with KEXP on Wednesday: “I find acts of machismo grotesque. We need to question our behavior as musicians for the greater good – which is not “act like a man,” but act like a good person”. But the men in last night’s audience were either not listening, or had forgotten this message completely whilst shouting lyrics such as “Men are scared women will laugh in their face // Whereas women are scared it’s their lives men will take” and “The mask // Of masculinity // Is a mask //A mask that’s wearing me” whilst pushing women to the floor and elbowing them in the face, without even a hint of irony or self awareness.
No-one is asking to be given special treatment in the pit. We’re all there for the same reason. We are simply asking for space – space to dance or mosh or do whatever the fuck we want. Put simply, if you are part of the majority in that pit (usually a white CIS male) then make space for others. Power taken away from anyone who is a minority in that space should be given back. Just be self aware. Be a decent human to everyone. Not just women. Anyone who is struggling. Anyone who is shorter than you. Anyone who just wants to have a good time without having your sweaty elbows in their face. I grew up in the mosh pit. I can totally handle it. But a good pit is not a hostile parade of bitter masculinity.
Last month, I interviewed Joe Talbot for BeatRoute Magazine. Coincidentally (or perhaps not, since Idles are so vocal about their support of feminism), we discussed this precise phenomenon. Talbot’s stance on this was pretty clear: “It is disturbing how easily a bunch of men encourage each other to act like Neanderthals. we need to openly encourage men to take a back seat or just allow for equal opportunity – that’s the key. We want venues to be safe places for everyone in the room”. I couldn’t have put it better myself.
I am embarrassed for the white CIS men of Vancouver. I am embarrassed that they would go out to see a band who vehemently protest against this kind of toxic masculinity and then behave in this way anyway. At the end of our interview, Talbot says: “I’ve been trying to think of a way to get women to the front without just doing a Kathleen Hanna, but I might just have to do a Kathleen Hanna”. Sad as it is, sometimes you’ve still just got to do a Kathleen Hanna.
Idles were absolutely fucking top, by the way. (Yes that’s right, my reviewing skills have hit an all-time high).